Last year in November 2013 i wrote a personal blog article on How i became mentally strong, The 13 things i avoided, as we are in the first quarter of 2014 i thought i would re-share this blog article on our website design,  motion and graphic design blog. Please feel free to share this article with your network.

By Anesu Michael Maposa

Circumstances on life happen so that you learn from them. Your environment should not shape you but rather you should shape your environment. Do not be like a river that bends to the environment but rather be like wind, invisible but powerful enough to shape its reality.

I have learnt the most important lesson in life that our mind is very powerful if trained and or programmed in the right way. Once you embrace that with your mind over matter, you are unstoppable as you become more mentally stable and strong. You should never let your emotions sway you in their course but rather sway your emotions in the course of action that you want. In my go-getting experience up to date I have found that by controlling events and happenings in my life and never going with the flow of the things, I have in a my own subtle way achieved the ends I have set out to conquer in my own kind of way.

You should never spend a lot of your time concerned about your physical strength and health, when it comes down to it, mental strength can mean even more. Particularly for youngpreneurs, I have read many articles that talk about critical characteristics of mental strength—tenacity, “grit”, optimism, and an unfailing ability as they “fail up.”

However, I can define mental strength by identifying the things that I have learnt not to do. I would like to share with you today my list on the things I have learnt and this would be very helpful to other go-getters and youngpreneurs. Anyway enough of the chatter and waffling let me take the deep plunge now! Fasten your seatbelts for the ride, be attentive, don’t read over this blog article, but read through it. Actually I encourage you to print, bookmark it and share it with someone.

Here are some of the things i learnt not to do:

1.    Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have learned to take responsibility for their actions and outcomes, and they have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair. They are able to emerge from trying circumstances with self-awareness and gratitude for the lessons learned. When a situation turns out badly, they respond with phrases such as “Oh, well.” Or perhaps simply, “Next!”

2. Give Away Their Power. Mentally strong people avoid giving others the power to make them feel inferior or bad. They understand they are in control of their actions and emotions. They know their strength is in their ability to manage the way they respond.

3.    Shy Away from Change. Mentally strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear”, if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and stagnant. An environment of change and even uncertainty can energize a mentally strong person and bring out their best.

4. Waste Energy on Things I Can’t Control. Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage, or especially about other people, as they recognize that all of these factors are generally beyond their control. In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing they can always control is their own response and attitude, and they use these attributes well.

5. Worry About Pleasing Others. Know any people pleasers? Or, conversely, people who go out of their way to dis-please others as a way of reinforcing an image of strength? Neither position is a good one. A mentally strong person strives to be kind and fair and to please others where appropriate, but is unafraid to speak up. They are able to withstand the possibility that someone will get upset and will navigate the situation, wherever possible, with grace.

6. Fear Taking Calculated Risks. A mentally strong person is willing to take calculated risks. This is a different thing entirely than jumping headlong into foolish risks. But with mental strength, an individual can weigh the risks and benefits thoroughly, and will fully assess the potential downsides and even the worst-case scenarios before they take action.

7. Dwell on the Past. There is strength in acknowledging the past and especially in acknowledging the things learned from past experiences—but a mentally strong person is able to avoid miring their mental energy in past disappointments or in fantasies of the “glory days” gone by. They invest the majority of their energy in creating an optimal present and future.

8. Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over. We all know the definition of insanity, right? It’s when we take the same actions again and again while hoping for a different and better outcome than we’ve gotten before. A mentally strong person accepts full responsibility for past behaviour and is willing to learn from mistakes. Research shows that the ability to be self-reflective in an accurate and productive way is one of the greatest strengths of spectacularly successful executives and entrepreneurs.

9. Resent Other People’s Success. It takes strength of character to feel genuine joy and excitement for other people’s success. Mentally strong people have this ability. They don’t become jealous or resentful when others succeed (although they may take close notes on what the individual did well). They are willing to work hard for their own chances at success, without relying on shortcuts.

10. Give Up After Failure. Every failure is a chance to improve. Even the greatest entrepreneurs are willing to admit that their early efforts invariably brought many failures. Mentally strong people are willing to fail again and again, if necessary, as long as the learning experience from every “failure” can bring them closer to their ultimate goals.

11. Fear Alone Time. Mentally strong people enjoy and even treasure the time they spend alone. They use their downtime to reflect, to plan, and to be productive. Most importantly, they don’t depend on others to shore up their happiness and moods. They can be happy with others, and they can also be happy alone.

12. Feel the World Owes You Anything. Particularly in the current economy, executives and employees at every level are gaining the realisation that the world does not owe them a salary, a benefits package and a comfortable life, regardless of their preparation and schooling. Mentally strong people enter the world prepared to work and succeed on their merits, at every stage of the game.

13. Expect Immediate Results. Whether it’s a workout plan, a nutritional regimen, or starting a business, mentally strong people are “in it for the long haul”. They know better than to expect immediate results. They apply their energy and time in measured doses and they celebrate each milestone and increment of success on the way. They have “staying power.” And they understand that genuine changes take time.

Do you have mental strength? Are there elements on this list you need more of? I would like to reinforce my own abilities further in each of these areas today. How about you?

I hope this post has been helpful to you and will help to become mentally strong that will help you shape and steer your life in the direction that you want and be the master of your own destiny! Always remember that in whatever situation you find yourself in, it’s “Mind Over Matter” not the other way round of matter over mind. 

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Please note that I, Anesu Michael Maposa, am not writing this article as an “expert” or as a “ninja” but solely from the experience I have garnered from my go-getting experience. 

To your success!

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Anesu Michael Maposa I am an extension of your Sales & Marketing department. Get in touch and find out how we can work together. Call or Whatsapp +263739851873 or email info (at)

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